EPISODE
118: Healthy and Unhealthy Debate in Your Company - How to Know the Difference
When smart teams can wrestle with ideas and build on each other's input to get to the best ultimate solution, it is where companies thrive. When it is done well it is truly a thing of beauty, and this type of ability is what unlocks the most innovative companies in the world. When this turns unhealthy or people begin to debate in a drama-filled way, it can lead to some of the biggest detrimental effects to company culture. In this episode, Alex shares exactly what healthy debate looks, feels, and sounds like from a Reality-Based low drama perspective, and gives you a few practical tools and techniques you can bring in if some of your discussions tend to get heated and cross a line.
Here is the link to the Negative Brainstorming tool that Alex mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AV6n69QCVnY&list=PLZWrCbJ7Bukuwek8D2y-6QAyGFAiuiB9a&index=2
Here is a link to learn how to share input in the form of expertise (and not opinions), which Alex mentioned in the video. This is a skilled and respectful way to debate ideas and move forward productively when adding your perspective: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLBUIVTzVIE&list=PLZWrCbJ7Bukuwek8D2y-6QAyGFAiuiB9a&index=4
Episode Highlights
00:03:09 Are you debating the what or the how?
00:05:01 Are you playing the wrong role in the conversation?
00:08:01 Is your team still fighting a decision that's already been made?
00:08:59 What is the negative brainstorming tool, and why does it work?
00:12:53 How do you turn post-decision frustration into forward motion?
00:15:04 What happened when one company ran a "break it" session before a major rollout?
00:19:18 Can shared language defuse tension before a hard conversation even starts?
00:23:01 Are you disagreeing with the idea, or attacking the person?
00:25:03 Why won't facts change someone's mind if facts didn't get them there?
00:27:39 What's your biggest tell that debate has turned unhealthy?
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123: How We Could Book Series Part 3: Leadership Tools to Coach Your Team to Accountability
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Here is a link to the tools mentioned in this podcast:
SBAR tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool
Thinking Inside-the-Box tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/box
Negative Brainstorming tool - https://youtu.be/AV6n69QCVnY?si=q7r_pglJsatIb-l2
Or grab all of the Toolkit tutorial videos, PDF and the new Call to Greatness Toolkit that accompanies the book here:
https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/greatness
In Part 3 of his How We Could Book Club Podcast Series, Alex Dorr shares his favorite quotes, insights, and lessons from the final section of his new book. In this episode, you'll learn three tools that help your team move forward productively even when facing resistance to change and uncertainty. It's a motivating listen for anyone looking to lead their team differently through ambiguity.
Episode Highlights:
00:01:25 - How the book took three years and is packed with real case studies
00:02:10 - Recap: the three parts of How We Could (loving up, calling up, answering the call)
00:04:26 - Introducing Part 3: answering the call to greatness
00:04:51 - Why fear is what really holds people back from taking action
00:07:07 - The three tools for next right action: SBAR, thinking inside the box, negative brainstorming
00:10:34 - When to use each tool
00:13:39 - Deep dive: how the SBAR cuts down workplace drama
00:19:30 - Deep dive: why "thinking inside the box" drives real innovation
00:22:39 - Deep dive: negative brainstorming and the Dr. Smith story
00:27:06 - Wrapping up Part 3 and celebrating the book launch
122: How We Could Book Series Part 2 - Calling People Up to Clarify the Problem, Take Accountability and Build Alignment on Your Team
In this episode, Alex Dorr breaks down his favorite quotes and insights from Part 2 of How We Could. You'll learn practical ways to clean up your thinking, build real accountability across your team, and make sure people are in the right role for what the situation actually requires. This is part two of a three-part series digging into the sections of the book that didn't make the final cut, sharing Alex's exclusive insights to enrich your reading experience.
Pre-order How We Could for you and your team (official release date is September 22nd): https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/pre-order
Episode Highlights:
00:00:18 – Welcome and episode intro
00:01:42 – Recap of Part 1 and transition into Part 2
00:04:04 – Part 2 begins: calling people up to greatness
00:04:22 – Step two overview: cleaning up thinking
00:09:34 – Why the five-step sequence matters (the "secret sauce")
00:14:17 – Diving into clean thinking: ego, stories, and facts
00:20:24 – Step three: accounting for our part in the mess
00:24:41 – Breaking down accountability: account + ability
00:27:30 – Step four: knowing your role in the solution
00:34:05 – Non-negotiables, procedures, and avoiding burnout
121: How We Could Book Series Part 1: Love People Up - Sharing Favorite Insights and Quotes from My New Book
In this episode, Alex discusses his favorite quotes and insights from his new book, How We Could. He goes deeper into everything that influenced what he wrote about in Part 1 and why he thinks it's important for your leadership and your team. This is Part One of a 3-Part Book Series discussing the biggest breakthrough insights from each part of the new book, from Alex's perspective.
Pre-order How We Could for you and your team (official release date is September 22nd): https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/pre-order
Episode Highlights:
00:00:20 Welcome back and two weeks from the launch of How We Could
00:01:29 Why Alex decided to do a three-part series through the book
00:03:03 Certification event announcement for November 12th and 13th in Dallas
00:03:11 A leader's story of using the framework during a sudden team transition
00:09:01 Introducing Part One, Loving People Up, and the structure of the book
00:11:23 The difference between empathy and sympathy
00:16:37 The keys to validating someone's experience and being a soft place to land
00:20:17 How rushing to fix a problem robs someone of the chance to evolve
00:26:36 Every frustration holds a call to greatness
00:30:29 Wrap up and closing thoughts on Part One
About Reality-Based Leadership keynotes, trainings and workshops: Based on 25 years of delivering research and delivery of leadership development programs in top companies in the world, Reality-Based Leadership helps leaders and teams ditch the drama, restore sanity to the workplace and turn excuses into results. RBL's keynotes, workshops, leadership development programs, virtual courses, assessments and tools equip leaders to recapture the 2.5 hours per day the average person is spending in drama and put that energy back towards achieving goals and high employee engagement.
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