EPISODE
Few Loud Resistors, Many Silent Supporters
In this episode, Cy and Alex talk about activating the silent majority at work. Alex and Cy share how they are noticing a trend where leaders are getting a wrong read of the room, and they think they have more resistance than is actually there on their team.
Too often the loudest small minority of those focused on why we can't or why we shouldn't have to, get to dominate the entire conversation in a meeting, and the rest stays silent and doesn't jump in to add their input or perspective.
There are so many challenges in this that affects our teams, and leaders have many levers that they can pull in these situations that can be more helpful. In this episode, Alex and Cy share several techniques and ways that you can turn down the volume of those loud minority resistors, and turn up the volume of your silent majority that has a lot to say, but they are not participating.
In this episode, you'll learn about a powerful, practical tool called negative brainstorming, and how it activates the silent majority to improve dialogue and discussion in meetings and gives better feedback and data to those that might be in the loud minority.
Also, you'll learn that in this can be some compassion for those that are the loud resistors and why that's important. We also talk about that the dog bites and what that means we also talk about how sometimes these tools fall flat, but they are still successful, and we discuss why.
And lastly, we talk about the importance of taking verbal dialogue of that loud minority that's in resistance and moving it towards visual tools to bring in your silent majority. This episode is action packed, and it really can change everything about your team if you're struggling without changing anything. This is an effortless way to evolve your leadership, and we can't wait to hear what you think about this episode.
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