EPISODE
116: The Backstory of My New Book, How We Could, Releasing in September
We are officially 2.5 months out from the launch of my new leadership book How We Could. This book will transform how leaders handle drama in the workplace and ensure that all of your teams can move anyone from why they can't to how they could regardless of circumstances.
This simple 5-step framework helps leaders to perfectly balance being their for their teams with empathy and authenticity while still calling them up to deliver on the important results your organization has been asked to deliver. In this episode, I share exactly who the book is for, what the 5-step framework is all about, why this book takes all 30 years of Reality-Based Leadership's research to a new level and how it fills in the gaps that our organization and content hadn't filled until now.
Buckle up and get your pre-order fingers ready - this book will transform your team to have the best year they've ever had in 2026 and beyond!
Link to pre-order How We Could: The Framework to Lead Without Drama, Build Alignment and Call Teams to Greatness for you and your teams:
https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/pre-order
To order 10+ copies for your team please reach out to info@realitybasedleadership.com
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Episode Highlights:
00:01:36 – Why this book, "How We Could," matters now
00:03:06 – Pre-order bonuses and bulk orders for teams
00:06:38 – The backstory: where the framework came from
00:11:27 – The Call to Greatness framework is born
00:14:01 – Why empathy without accountability becomes sympathy
00:17:26 – The five steps explained (love up, clean thinking, find your part, know your role, take action)
00:25:28 – When and where to use the framework
00:29:25 – The SBAR tool and why tools alone aren't enough
00:35:37 – Touch-and-go moments vs. calls to greatness that take years
00:44:01 – Closing thoughts and pre-order details
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00:15:08 Technique 2: swap why and who for what and how
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