EPISODE
Finding Peace Amongst the Chaos
This week I'm answering 4 of your questions as we continue to find our way through this challenging time. My biggest hope is that you can find peace amidst the chaos.
Questions answered:
- I want to continue working from home, while my co-workers are at the office. How do I ask for what I need?
- I feel anxious and distracted working at home right now. How can I refocus and get back to productive work?
- I am extroverted and realize that I get a lot of my motivation and confidence from others. How can I nip that insecurity in the bud and stop being such people pleaser?
- How can I help my team and co-workers rise above the chaos, drama, and anxiety and stay focused on the task at hand?
Join me on Facebook Live this Thursday, 4/16 12:00 PM CST https://bit.ly/2Vkv7ca
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117: Why Learned Helplessness Holds Teams Back and Is the Opposite of Accountability
What happens when your team stops trying - not because they can't, but because they've decided it won't matter anyway? Alex Dorr, CEO and host of the Reality-Based Leadership Podcast, unpacks the psychological phenomenon behind stalled accountability: learned helplessness. It's the belief that your actions no longer shape your outcomes. It's contagious. And it's often hiding in plain sight, disguised as "that's just how things are here."
Alex walks through two classic experiments to show how deeply this pattern gets wired in, then turns the mirror on himself with a personal story about a phantom leg cramp that limited him for six years. From there, he offers three practical techniques leaders can use immediately: naming excuses and asking "what else could we try," swapping victim-questions for ownership-questions, and reframing impossible goals into small, doable next steps.
Learned helplessness isn't a character flaw. It's a habit. And habits can be broken. Listen in, then go work on it with your team this week.
Episode Highlights
00:02:27 What learned helplessness actually is
00:04:02 The flea experiment
00:06:38 The five monkeys experiment
00:08:27 Phrases that signal learned helplessness
00:10:03 Alex's personal story: the lunges that haunted him
00:14:04 Technique 1: name the excuse, ask what else
00:15:08 Technique 2: swap why and who for what and how
00:17:41 Technique 3: thinking inside-the-box
117: Why Learned Helplessness Holds Teams Back and Is the Opposite of Accountability
What happens when your team stops trying - not because they can't, but because they've decided it won't matter anyway? Alex Dorr, CEO and host of the Reality-Based Leadership Podcast, unpacks the psychological phenomenon behind stalled accountability: learned helplessness. It's the belief that your actions no longer shape your outcomes. It's contagious. And it's often hiding in plain sight, disguised as "that's just how things are here."
Alex walks through two classic experiments to show how deeply this pattern gets wired in, then turns the mirror on himself with a personal story about a phantom leg cramp that limited him for six years. From there, he offers three practical techniques leaders can use immediately: naming excuses and asking "what else could we try," swapping victim-questions for ownership-questions, and reframing impossible goals into small, doable next steps.
Learned helplessness isn't a character flaw. It's a habit. And habits can be broken. Listen in, then go work on it with your team this week.
Episode Highlights
00:02:27 What learned helplessness actually is
00:04:02 The flea experiment
00:06:38 The five monkeys experiment
00:08:27 Phrases that signal learned helplessness
00:10:03 Alex's personal story: the lunges that haunted him
00:14:04 Technique 1: name the excuse, ask what else
00:15:08 Technique 2: swap why and who for what and how
00:17:41 Technique 3: thinking inside-the-box
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